For Muslim youth growing up in Western society it can be difficult to remain strong and avoid being led astray by the temptations that the society bombards them with. Such as drugs, boyfriends and girlfriends and gangs.
For anyone who lives in the West it is obvious that the society promotes free mixing and haram relationships between the sexes. This is promoted everywhere, from billboards, advertising commercials, magazines, and songs to television programmes.
A Muslim living in this type of environment needs to make sure that he or she has a strong understanding to the Islamic belief and the Islamic Shari’ah.
Realizing the magnitude of the haraam actions
A Muslim must link his actions directly to the consequences: the rewards and punishments in the hereafter. He should visualize these even when thinking about performing any prohibited action. This consciousness of Allah (swt) and the afterlife should be a shield to protect us from sin and should encourage us to earn reward.
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has warned both men and women of the consequences of their actions.
Ubadah ibn as-Samit narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “If you guarantee me six things on your part I shall guarantee you Paradise. Speak the truth when you talk, keep a promise when you make it, when you are trusted with something fulfil your trust, avoid sexual immorality, lower your eyes, and restrain your hands from injustice” [Ahmad and Baihaqi in Shu’ab al-Iman transmitted it].
We also find it very common in Western societies for men to look at women who they are not even married to with lust. Islam has forbidden this as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “The adultery of the eyes is the sight, the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes, desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it” [Bukhari]
Whereas, in this society it is a women is deemed to be abnormal for her to step out of her home without layers of make-up, lipstick and wearing revealing clothes.
It has been narrated by Abu Musa al-Ashari that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said,
“Any women that uses perfume and walks past men in order for them to smell her fragrance; she is a fornicator” [Tirmidhi & Abu Dawud].
He (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) also said:
“Two categories of people I have not seen them (yet): some people who hold whips like the tails of the cows by which they lash the people. And women who wear (clothes) but (are) half-naked, bending (their bodies) and bending the sight of the men to them. Their heads are like the tilted humps of the camels. These women will not enter the paradise nor will they experience its smell (odor), though its odor is felt at a distance of so and so (days)” [Muslim].
Unfortunately, the Muslim women are seen abandoning their Khimar and Jilbab and heading towards the temptations of society. However, Allah (swt) has given us the guidance to avoid following our desire and reach towards seeking the pleasure of Allah(swt), this can be done by the following ways:
Avoiding unnecessary temptation
It is important as Muslim youths that we protect our identity and stay away from watching movies, TV programmes, listening to music and reading magazines that encourage fornication and the actions that lead to it, as these are haram according to the Shari’ah principle, ‘The means to haram is itself haram’.
Staying in the correct atmosphere
Being in good atmosphere is vital for the Muslim youth to be able to avoid the temptations. The type of atmosphere that exists amongst some of the youth is very corrupt, where the topic of discussion revolves around the opposite sex and ‘showing off’ to each other. This type of atmosphere only serves to stir up the instincts of people and could potentially lead Muslims further away from Islam.
Abu Musa narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said,
“The example of a good companion in comparison with a bad one, is like that of the musk seller and the blacksmith’s bellows (or furnace); from the first you would either buy musk or enjoy its good smell while the bellows would either burn your clothes or your house, or you get a bad nasty smell thereof” [Bukhari].